Divine Purpose

           A few days ago, I overheard the conversations among a few young guys in their late 20s and earlier 30s, typically Scandinavian blue eyes and brown hair handsomes. They were talking about girls and comparing how many girlfriends they have had so far, they were teasing each other and exchanging the mischievous laughters as if they were winning some kind of trophies…

        I turned my attention away feeling a sense of sadness: What has happenen to us? What has happened to our values? ...  Do you really think that you are gaining or winning something? Do you realize what you are doing to yourself?... Sexual energy is a very powerful energy-for its powerful ability to create and to destroy. In Chinese ancient Taoism there was a sacred knowledge about sexual alchemy to obtain higher status of consciousness through the physical union and alignment of two energies with love, but only physical union won’t do. With that being said, the energy exchange through physical contact will have a greater and a longer impact on both parties physically, mentally and spiritually, which many may have underestimated. Once the contact is taken place, the energy cording between two will be established, even though you might never see each other again afterwards, the energy cording will continue to exist-you taking on each other’s energies(good or bad), even each other's karmic energies… unless you are consciously enough to work with cutting off and releasing that energetic bond between you two (because you have the free will )... Anyway, it means the more ‘trophies’ you have collected, most likely, the more energy burdens you may have taken on yourself, even the other's past karmic energy burdens; which also means the more work will be needed from you to work off those energies ... So really, in what sense do you think you have gained or won,  your ego maybe?!

            It is within each soul’s deep longing to learn its lesson through different sojourns, to evolve, to be able to return to the soul’s original ‘purity’; to transmute heavier energy to lighter energy; to transcend from the lower vibrations to higher vibrations; to be able to ‘go home’ in the end (we can’t return not because there is a wrathful God punishing us and stopping us, it is just because our own energy can’t sustain in those higher vibrations and frequencies yet)... 3D earthly sojourn is no more than another universe school. During our lifetime in this earthly ‘ school’, each relationship we have, each soul we encounter will be served as the mirror to ourselves; to learn the lessons which were intended; to prepare us for the union with ourselves and finally one with God(the creative universal forces)... By avoiding the work in the relationships once they become rocky; by running away from our own issues and shadows, we will be just delaying our own soul development. Lessons have to be learnt, in one way or another, in one life or another. Though there is no authoritive God or Gods demanding us to do so, it is within our own soul’s innate deep desire- to release all the karmic burdens, to heal ourselves, to return to that divine light, to experience that kind of unconditional love and to be able to feel that kind of oneness with ALL that is again...

           If we choose to run away from our problems; if we keep looking for the answers from the outside sources(e.g. money, drugs, alcohol, sex etc.), we probably have to reincarnate many more lives to have that intended lesson learnt- It is so called ‘wheel of karma’ in Buddhism. I call it as‘the wheel of hamster’- Be like a hamster keeping running yet get to no where!… After all the failed relationships, after all the heartaches and headaches, we may come to an important life realization one day- There is no one in this world can truly fulfill you other than yourself! And there is no relationship in this world can truly fill that empty void inside you(maybe temporarily), other than the relationship with yourself!

          Once we give up looking outside ourselves for answers, we may ready to have a true relationship with ourselves. I am not saying it is an easy process- It is said easier to victory over the others than over one’s self! In order to purge, to heal, one has to tear off one’s own masks and falsehood; One has to face one’s own shadows and the dark night of the soul; One has to be willing to open the deep old wounds and scars and to look at them objectively; One has to own one’s own karma, both good or bad which have been done to the others and one’s self… Therefore until we can have a pretty good authentic relationship with ourselves,  most of our relationships will remain on the egoistic façade exploiting each other in the name of love…

           Once we can see the truth beneath the veil of the dramas of our relationships; Once we can perceive the divine purpose beyond our frustrations and disappointments – As it is said, prior to our reincarnation, it was our own soul who have made different agreements and contracts with other souls or soulmates that they shall play certain roles in our life- a heavier role or a lighter role, a role of 'a good guy' or a role of ‘a bad guy’, so we can learn our intended lessons, to serve our soul growth… It may seem difficult to digest at first, but this may exactly what our higher selfs wanted, exactly what we need for our soul growth... Sometimes life is not what it seems, and love is not what it seems. If we could try to ‘see from above’ sometimes, our relationships no matter how challenging they are, how heartbreaking it is, there may still be hidden higher purposes and disguised blessings for us ......