My dear daughter,
You are 18 now- an important milestone for you, not
only in an official sense that now you can buy alcohol and take drive license
etc. but also in a sense that you are no longer a little girl, you have become
a woman! As kind, smart and beautiful as you are and we are immensely proud of
who you have become!
I understand there are certain things which are more sensitive, awkward and even little taboo to talk about between parents and children, for example, sexuality. Now it is time for me to address a bit about this sensitive topic, because it is too important to leave it unaddressed or leave to you to figure it out all by yourself as my parents did to me which made me question this method because I had to go through many unnecessary struggles due to the lacking of emotional support and understanding and proper guidance from my parents... I don't mean that now you as my daughter should do what I say, instead I want you to feel that I am with you and I am here ready to validate your feelings whatever you feel is right for you... therefore I will not brush aside this topic even though you might be defensive about it, because I have come to the understanding of the importance of this through my own painful struggles that this is too important to brush over or off. As young as you are, filled with hope and dreams, as innocent and vulnerable as you are, as a mother, I feel compelling to share some of my thoughts with you, to prepare you for the adulthood as much I can because I can see how in the near future your attitude towards sexuality will have profound impact on your experience of sexuality and the quality of your relationship with others and yourself...
As you know, everything is energy. And sexual energy is the most potent and most creative energy in the universe because it has created the entire universe, the stars, the planets and the humans... there is the eternal dance of sacred love between the polarity energies which in human expressed as male and female principles. Yet since human's lower mind driven by ego and self serving has become such a dominant in human's conscious life, automatically the human's higher mind was forced to the background and has remained dormant for thousand years. As the consequences of this shift in human consciousness- the matter victorying over the human spirit, many holy men or sage were prosecuted, killed or forced to hide underground, so were those important scripts and documents of sacred knowledges forced to go understand. Maybe it has to be so as esoteric knowledge unknown to the mass for our own protection before the mass consciousness is ready to receive such teachings. Otherwise it will be misinterpreted and manipulated for controlling and gaining power for sex supremacy through creating fear, shame and guilt in sexuality in each other... there are already much distorted energies in our human collective psyche originated from the past traumas, guilt, fear and mistrust related to sex and genders which has been screaming for addressing and healing, yet most people don't want to talk about it, because this' big elephant' in their closets has become too big to to deal with it, so it is easier to choose escapism through drugs, alcohol or senseless sex... I am afraid, if one day, all those ancient wisdom and sacred knowledge are completely destroyed or disappeared, there will be no more hope for humans, without any of divine guidance. Human consciousness will fall deeper and deeper into the abyss of the darkness of self tormenting... So be respectful and show reverence towards these sacred teachings and divine guidance because they are our souls' very last straw!!!
Sorry my thoughts were 'wandering' a bit too far from the course once again. Back to you, I have witnessed how you have become a pretty confident and open-minded young lady who can be kind to people and yet at the same time be able to stand for yourself which make me very proud because I could not do that at your age. I was very quiet, shy and introvert and always preferred to be cocooned in my own little world with my books, my trees, my birds , my imagined angelic friends than to be with people...I have been working diligently since with my own issues and my trust towards people. But nevertheless, surely you can be my teacher in something and I can be your teacher in something else even though we are a mother and a daughter. My experiences, my perspectives and my spirituality can still provide you with some valuable insights and guidance especially in the areas of emotion and spirituality related to sexuality hopefully. So bear with me, please.
I remember that you joked about how many of your friends are having their boyfriends and how you are being picky with a bit tease of ‘such a picky daughter must have such a picky mum’ thing… I know it is quite acceptable and normal for parents in Sweden that their kids are allowed to have sexual relationship as earlier as 15 years old and maybe even earlier in some cases. Of course there are different social norms from different countries and places, as much as I respect how people choose to live their lives but I just have some different opinions regarding this. Trust me, it has very little to do with where I come from, I was regarded as a black sheep as much in my family as outside of my family because my mind and my thoughts appeared too different and too strange to the people around me… It has taken me many years of self struggles to come in term with myself- 'If this is the way that I am made by God, who can be there against me-HIS way?!' So listen, there is no rush with finding a boyfriend. You don’t need to prove your worth to anyone and neither do you need to compete with anyone, as the moon doesn't need to compete with the sun, as a rose doesn't need to compete with a lily... you are more than good enough! You don't need to find a boyfriend or a friend to confirm how good you are and how wonderful you are, always willingly to give that confirmation to yourself regardless! … No matter how controversial I might sound to you right now, please keep your mind open because you've already known that I love you and I want the very best for you. Just take a few minutes to reflect upon what I have written to you and simply take those which resonates with your heart and leave the rest. I am not here to tell you what to do or what not to do. Here I just would like to raise your awareness about some neglected areas related to sexuality, so you would be more prepared(may never enough though according to a mother...), especially in the areas of your emotional wellbeing and your mental stability at this stage of yours. I believe today's teens have already known more than enough information about the sexuality in the physical areas, so I will not address that here.
I know, that we are living in a western world which is very much about freedom, including the freedom of sexuality. But this lacking of deeper understanding that we humans are more than just some physical beings but also we are energetic beings of soul/spirit. When we interact with one another, we are not only communicating with our words and our body languages, we are communicating energetically as well, depends on how you are sensitive and in tune with energies. Generally speaking, females are more easily to pick up energies and affected by them as well because of lacking of understanding. Take a simple example, you know someone that you always feel exhausted after you have spent time with him/her, you don't really know why, but you know how you feel. In that case, you should always trust your feeling more than your logic mind. What was going on is: you two can chat normally and friendly but your energies are communicating on a deeper level at the same time, words can lie, energies can't! If you are a sensitive empath, you can be ever more easily read and take on others' energies unwillingly, it can be very burdensome and heavy on your emotional energetic body if you don't learn how to close your receptors at will for your own protection at times... That is to say, when you merge with someone sexually, you two are communicating in an even deeper and a more intimate way, you will not only merge with your physical body, but also your emotional body and your soul essence energy... so what you take with you from another person is not only the passion released but also you take with you his soul essence which consists of not only his own cell memories but also the soul memories he has taken from the other people who he has sexually merged with previously, unless those negative and discorded energy cords being consciously healed and cleared off … There are so many people on this planet get diseased physically, emotionally and mentally not knowing about their energetic fields have been 'messed up' by this so called modern freedom mode-'non-strings-attached-sex' without emotional involvements, but in truth you will be involved more than you think! So you will be unconsciously take on and carry on each other's soul memories and karmic burdens through this sexual exchange because you have forgotten the complexity of your being and the complexity of the energy exchange especially the powerful sexual energy exchange!... Believe or not, that all forms of diseases first will appear in your energetic field before manifesting into your physical body! That is to say, it is as important to keep your physical body hygien and clean as it is important to keep your sexuality as clean as possible if you desire to experience more love, peace, harmony, vitality and creativity in your life, otherwise you have to put much of your precious energy in dealing with the burdens which may not be even yours in your energy field, especially your emotional body... Of course, it can be your soul's choice to go through that kind of turmoil and discords in order to understand and to discern your own energy from the others', thus to learn how to protect your own energetic sovereignty... In any case, please don't feel pressured that you have not found your one yet, there is true golden in being choosy and picky when it comes that. Be proud instead, because it does take courage to stand alone without compromising who you are!!!
Sex can be done in different ways. If it is only done between the legs, then it is only sex nothing else, on this level, humans are no different from the animals; When it is done between two hearts, then this sex energy will rises up to the heart chakra connecting two souls which will make you feel loved; and if continues through the heart portal, there is another higher level that we each human being has potential to reach is to arise this potent energy spiraling up to the crown chakra, or even beyond(you may call it kundalini rising), this powerful uprising energy symbolizes that human’s spirit is rising up to its victory over the matter once again. Because on this level, sexuality has transcend and transmuted to a spiritual height which make the physical sexual activities lesser of importance, your spirit becomes so merged with the grand oceanic LOVE of the Universe, and merged with all-there-is, in that self realization you will know your wholeness and your own sovereignty! This is every single soul's journey, to wander off to experience what it is like to feel separated and fragmented in order to understand, to appreciate the homecoming of your wholeness and your own sovereignty! All roads will lead to Rome, all of you relationships will lead back to you- You are actually seeking for YOU, the wholeness of you, the totality of you, through the reflections of people you are interacting with, they can either reflect back your good quality for your own confirmation or they can reflect back those less desirable qualities of your which you may need to improve or heal... this is another subject and I can explain to you more another time.
I hope that I am not making it too complicated for you to digest. What I am trying to say here is, it has been your ego or the other's ego telling you that you are not enough, that you have to find someone or something to complete you which is far from the real truth… but of course it shall not take away
the enjoyment of you wanting to connect with other people. But the fundamental
difference is that you don't have to be in that needy or controlling energy which is not very attractive. When you learn to owe your energy as‘ I don’t need you but I enjoy
to be with you’ , don't get me wrong, I don't mean that you should be vulgar, or loud about it, but be your authentic self - to be comfortable with who you are and owe who you are regardless how the others think of you, that is super attractive!!! Trust me, when you become so confident in who you are, when you become your own sovereignty, you will never need to chase anyone, you will attract best ones who can reflect back your beauty and your greatness... Remember, you don't need compromise who you real are for love. Real love will find you when you insist in being who you are!
Sexuality is sacred if you choose to see as such; your body is sacred if you choose to treat as such; and you can teach others how to treat you as such accordingly. You can either abuse your body vessel like a trash or you can treat it like a holy temple housing the divine essence of yours... So be very vigilant about taking in any toxins like drugs or alcohol into your body vessel, or allow those toxins or anyone using them to manipulate you. It is far better to do it with clarity in your mind and loving in your heart instead of regretting afterwards... I am your mother. Naturally I want to protect you under my wings forever and ever. But I know I can’t do that for you. No matter how much I want to protect you from any potential dangers and obstacles, I am aware, in the end, it is your life, it is your soul journey, you have to walk through it by yourself. Just remember, whatever you choose to create, you have to experience just that!- so it is with the universal law. So choose with care and enjoy your creative and wonderful manifestations in this world, career wise, relationship wise... As you know, only the sky is the limit... I love you, my sweet angel…💖
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